Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.—
Lindy West for Jezebel: “If I Admit That ‘Hating Men’ Is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning It Into a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?” (via mountaindust)
Our bodies are battle grounds for people who will never have to live in them
As long as you live in a body that is not cis, abled, white, & male? Someone’s going to spend a lot of time, energy, & money digging into why you’re wrong for existing. They’ll fight each other over what’s wrong with you & fight you over any efforts you make to love yourself. We’re all supposed to vanish (see 95% of future fiction), and leave them to a world where they can compete to be their own heroes, while we stay mythical villains to be destroyed on sight. Staying alive, staying visible, that’s all it takes to be radical in a world that would rather erase you than acknowledge your humanity.
You have to love that even in discussions of American shows made by American companies, the moment race is brought up by Americans of color, suddenly we don’t have the faintest clue what we’re talking about even when actual recorded history & current events show that the locales where the shows are set aren’t all white & never have been. If you really think that castles = no one black? You need to go pick up a damned history book. Start with the Moors and work your way forward & back through history. Protip: When you get to the parts about math, science, medicine, & paper? That all came from POC. NYC in 2012? Full of people who are not white. Can a racist manage to avoid having POC in their circle of friends? Probably, but it’ll take a special effort and they’ll need to only make friends with other bigots. Really, if you’re relying on white American to tell you about the reality of POC in this country? You’re already too fucked up for words.
Oh look, YOU are comparing women to children as well. Thanks for that.
PS: discrimination and rights are not the same thing. “Men’s rights” is a redundant statement. Does discrimination against men exist? Yes. Is it a result of the patriarchy and enforced gender roles? ALSO YES.
If you’ve read…
Yes, you ARE wrong about that. That last line was prejudice in and of itself. Again. The fact that you called everyone who supports men’s rights an “asshole” proves my point. Not every one of them is like that. In fact I know none that are like that. And in my personal opinion, they are much more respectable than feminists, and wouldn’t resort to calling a feminist an “asshole”. Once again, I would like to point out that people who support men’s rights are NOT automatically anti-feminist or a woman hater. Once again, you proved my point. You are like a little child who refuses to admit she’s wrong.
There is literally steam pouring out of my ears right now. STOP CALLING ME A CHILD. STOP COMPARING WOMEN WHO BELIEVE IN EQUALITY TO CHILDREN. I can’t believe you’re pissy that I called MRAs “assholes” and then in the same breath called me a little child. Then again, the amount of cognitive dissonance it takes to be an MRA probably accounts for that.
You don’t know any MRAs who are assholes (besides yourself)? Did you read my first response? Did you click any of those links? Please feel free to peruse the Men Going Their Own Way forum for examples of woman-hating assholes. A sampling:
“Vows, like other promises from women, are like weather forecasts. Without adding a percentage of probability, utterly useless and unreliable.”“HEY fems, I WANT MY RIB BACK NOW you DON’T DESERVE IT! ”“The issues I had with women were with their mouth talking too much shit. Thats why blowjobs are so good ;)”“Don’t like [pussy] because of the smell and the beas that it is attached to.”“Love some good pussy. Dealing with the life support unit that powers it is oftentimes troublesome indeed”And this? This is all from one thread. One. The fact that you think you don’t know any MRAs who are assholes means you don’t know an asshole when you see one. Which isn’t surprising, given that your head is buried so far up your colon that you’ve probably forgotten what the entrance looks like.
Discrimination exists against men. I’ve already said that. But of course, to know that you’d have to have read my posts, which obviously you didn’t. The “Men’s Rights Activists” movement is inherently, externally, in all ways and forms, anti-woman and anti-feminist. Believing in equality is totally different from being an MRA. Like I said (again, reading, comprehension, etc etc) most of the basic things men’s rights activists say they want are things that they don’t have because of the patriarchy, not because women took them away from you.If you call me a child again, I will reblog every single sexist post on your blog. I found plenty. I will make sure every feminist on Tumblr knows that you are a sexist piece of shit who belittles and degrades women.Please, prove me wrong that MRAs are anything, ANYTHING more than bitter men who hate women. Because I’ve found no evidence to the contrary.-Jess
White people who believe in color blind racial ideology are actively placating the status quo, encouraging racism, and reinforcing white supremacy.
Yesterday in my Criminology class I brought up Treyvon Martin. My prof also happens to be Daytona’s chief of police so I figured he might be able shed some light on wtf was going on for me.
And he says he hasn’t heard about it…
But I actually like the guy so I decide to give him the benefit of a doubt and tell him and the other clueless folk in class what happened. I purposely left out the race of both parties when I did so and this was his response:
Prof: Obviously this guy is just a racist douche bag who doesnt have what it takes to be an actual cop so he goes around bullying people because he thinks he’s some kinda fucking vigilante. Probably thought he was doing his neighborhood a favor by harassing this kid for having the nerve to be black and cross the street.
Random Chick: How do you know the boy was african american?
Prof: Let’s be real here. Shit like this doesn’t happen to white kids. For those of you that didn’t realize that I’m sorry to burst your bubble but that’s a fact.
Chief Mike Chitwood ladies and gentlemen!
When I asked him why said douchebag hadn’t been arrested he said he had no idea but he was going to read up about it and told me to bring it up again in class next week. should be an interesting class…
“Let’s be real here. Shit like this doesn’t happen to white kids. For those of you that didn’t realize that I’m sorry to burst your bubble but that’s a fact.”
Real talk. I can’t imagine being the mother of a Black son right now. I can’t imagine having to fear that the precious wonderful human being I brought into the world could be shot by a racist gun-toting vigilante. -Jess